Can Our Past Relationships Affect Our Present Relationship?

One can enter a new relationship with the idea that it will be a completely new experience and unlike what they have gone through in the past. But while this might be their outlook in the beginning, this can soon come to an end as the relationship progresses.

This could be because of what is going on within them or what is taking place on the outside. But although what is going in internally and externally can be different, it is easy for one to see them as being one and the same.

So even if the relationship is nothing like what their mind is coming up with, one can end up projecting it onto the relationship and make their inner experience a reality. The other person might be able to make one realise this or they could get caught up in these projections and validating ones experience.

The defining factor will often be how aware someone is and whether they are open to what is actually going on externally. There is also the chance that the person they are with is just like their previous partner.

At The Start

During the beginning of the relationship everything could be going fine or it could be that one notices something more or less straight away and this causes a reaction within them. An instant red play may appear and one thing then becomes a hundred things.

This could make it impossible for one to see the other person for who they are. It then won’t matter that they are different, as their mind will be convinced that they are the same as everyone else they have been with or just someone who caused them a lot of pain in the past.

A Fresh Start

It might be confusing as to why this happens, especially as one is with a new person. And this could be someone who is exactly what they want and is nothing like the people they have been with in the past.

Part of them then wants to embrace a new relationship and move on from the past, but there is another part of them that hasn’t let go. So they end up having one foot in the present moment and another in the past.

And for one to recognise another for who they are and not as a projection of one’s past, they will have had to let go off what happened in their previous relationships. Or if they are still holding onto the past, they will have to be willing to do the work necessary to see another person for who they are.

This will take time and commitment and won’t happen straight away. Holding on is part of being human, so this is not something that one should feel ashamed of or beat themselves up over.

Holding On

So one has moved on and no longer has any contact with their previous partner or partners and yet another part of them hasn’t. The experiences one had in the past will have caused their mind to create certain beliefs and their body would also have created feelings due to what took place.

One can then leave the relationship and physically move on, but mentally and emotionally they could still be in the relationship. What happened has left a mark on ones mind and body and just finding someone else is not always enough.

One can unconsciously project what happened in their past onto their new relationship and end up being enslaved or they can consciously work through their projections. Awareness will be the key and external assistance may be needed, such as a therapist or a book for instance.


There is going to be all kinds of things that one can project onto another and some of these will have a bigger impact than others. One’s ability to trust is going to be something that is affected by what took place in the past.

This can relate to if another person will cheat, be there for them and /or whether they will hurt them like they were hurt in the past.


If these are not faced, the relationship might not progress or evolve and could end up being sabotaged in the process. This could be in the early stages or one might get to a certain point and then be unable to move forward.

History Repeats Itself

What one is experiencing could relate to what has happened in their adult relationships and yet it can also go back to what took place during their childhood. One might find that how they have felt in their relationships, actually mirrors how they felt as a child towards their parents.

However, no matter where it was from, one will have to deal with their beliefs and possibly their emotions. Unless ones emotions from these experiences are processed, they will stay trapped in their body. And these feelings then go on to define who one attracts and is attracted to. As well as how they behave and how they interpret another person’s behaviour.


The first thing that one can do is to notice any patterns that are operating. One can also bring up how they feel in the relationship to their partner and see if there is any truth to it. Reading up on this area will help one to become more aware and to question their beliefs.

A therapist, healer or their partner can assist them in releasing their trapped emotions. This will allow one to be more present and to see the other person for who they are.

Prolific writer, thought leader and coach, Oliver JR Cooper hails from the United Kingdom. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation; love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With several hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behavior, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice. Current projects include “A Dialogue With The Heart” and “Communication Made Easy.”

Kona Coffee Gift Baskets Can Be The Perfect Presents For Your Loved Ones

Kona coffee gift baskets make ideal presents for a friend or relative. Kona coffee is one of the finest coffees in the world. It is grown in the Kona district of Hawaii, where there is fertile volcanic soil. The weather in this region has gentle rains and most of the afternoons have shade, which is ideal for growth of Kona coffee. The coffee is unique and tasty and it makes a perfect gift for coffee drinkers.

It is not easy to buy a gift for someone who seems to have it all. A good gift does not have to be expensive, but it must be something special. Giving a loved one a unique gift will make them feel special and appreciated. This gift is not available in every store and getting one means that someone cares about the recipient and it’s the reason they take time to buy this type of gift.

Most people love coffee and this rare gourmet coffee is just the best gift. This gift is suitable for a friend, boss, in-laws, client and a spouse. They will love the experience one of the best coffees in the world.

Kona coffee gift baskets are perfect for most occasions. This includes birthdays, anniversary, holidays or just as way of appreciating a friend or a loved one. This gift is never unappreciated, people love coffee and getting an opportunity to enjoy high quality one, is great opportunity for them. Lovers of coffee can differentiate high and low quality coffee.

Kona is appreciated all over the world making it suitable for any one living in India, Europe, America, Africa and many other parts in the world. Coffee is universal and all nationalities appreciate it regardless of their culture.

What is in the Kona coffee gift baskets? Every basket contains several packs of Kona coffee and also a mug. The items inside are amazing and available on the internet for sale. To make the gift more unique, it can be made at home and include some other items from packs of coffee. Making one at home is easy; packs of Kona coffee must be included together with a coffee mug and something like chocolate. These are then put in a beautiful box, bag or basket. This will make a stylish and expensive gift.

To make an extravagant gift, packs of the coffee are bundled in a box together with a coffee maker. This makes an ideal gift for a wedding, anniversary or for a boss. It can also be used a raffle prize in holiday parties and special events. Participant will be eager to win the gift and enjoy a cup of the very high quality coffee.

It can also be given as a gift for a big family. The rich flavor of the coffee will make them feel cherished and it will be great for people who love another to share the rich unique taste. It is always unforgettable; and tasting it for the first time leaves the whole family with good memories. It is good treat for everyone for any special occasion and even on an ordinary day.

AV Voice Changer Software Diamond, Version 8 Presents: A New Vision in Voice Morphing Software.

Version 8 may be remembered as the start of something great. A major facelift, presenting a smartphone-like arrangement on a bright Blue and White glasslike screen. They have also wisely moved all access to all features onto a pleasing arrangement of button icons, each opening a control module. Users should prepare to enter a creative universe of sounds, videos, and music, presented, arranged, and edited the way you want them to be.

AV Voice Changer Software Diamond 8 is primarily a program to alter the audio portion of any file; it has the ability to extract, replace, and/or modify virtually any audio stream. It can be used for voiceovers, overdubbing, narration, and other traditional voice modifying tasks. Where it can really show off though is when it comes to reproducing or duplicating another voice, using only your own voice and VCSD8s, and the program allows you to monitor the output in real-time, so you can immediately hear your results and make any modifications instantly as you go along.

The magic behind the reproduction process is the “nickvoice.” These are pre-made settings saved as files that can be loaded instantly to adjust settings to output a specific voice, such as a celebrity or politician. Many “nickvoices” come preloaded in the program; they are also available online (more on that later), and users can create and save their own “nickvoices.” The unique aspect is the instant application to the user’s audio output in real-time; this allows one voice to be turned into an almost unlimited cast of characters, without stopping to setup each one; switch the “nickvoice” with some clicks and hear the results instantly.

A brief review of the program’s main features includes:
• a full, 9-slider equalizer with a host of presets for much easier selection
• instant access to all of your “nickvoice” files
• a quick Sound Quality button
• a separate equalizer for the voice
• a vowel enhancer button to further enhance vocal qualities
• touch screen technology support
• voiceovers can now be rerecorded over existing output without altering the original until the user decides it is ready.
• a full and high quality audio/video player
• plus even more

However, the truly innovative aspect is the new, parabolic screen display for the Timbre and Pitch Graph. This display makes adjustments easier to see and understand, and the graph has improved control for more precise placement. By placing all the controls in close proximity to the graph, this version brings all the best aspects of this program together in one place. Running the program, loading in the files, making the modifications; it all flows into one smooth, easily controlled process with this exciting, new interface.

Voice Over has also upgraded with the ability to keep recording on top of existing audio files. From now on, you can just keep recording over the same file until you get perfect results. How amazing!

One thing for sure is that AV Voice Changer Software Diamond 8 is smoothly compatible in almost every audio environment. It works well with many popular VoIP and Instant Messaging clients, and online games. Chatting like a crazy alien, or a broken robot, a silly detective or one of many famous movie characters is totally possible with this masterpiece. Let this program release the artist living inside you!

How a School Trip Brings History Into the Present

History, they say, is written by the victors. This is why it is vital for teachers to guide students in how to read between the lines. Students should learn to appreciate the nuances and varied opinions of the past and form their own opinions of what happened.

This exercise in critical thought is greatly helped when history is brought into the present. When students come into close contact with the original sources, historical remains and contextual origins of events from the past, they are better able to analyse them and form intelligent, balanced opinions. This is the value of a history school trip.

Feel the sacrifice on WWI battlefields

While the battles of World War One are not yet lost in the far distant past, there is nonetheless a gulf in time and experience separating modern students from the toil in the trenches. A school trip is an ideal way for students to come face to face with the provenance and artefacts of these battles. While it is by no means akin to being in the trenches of wartime, it does open students’ imaginations in a way that will allow them to better consider not only the sacrifice made on the battlefields, but also the historical causes and justifications for the war and decisions made.

Visualise the glory of Rome

The Roman Empire has a permanent stamp on modern culture. It pervades films, images and modern imagery to this day. What is perhaps more complex is piercing the veil of myth and oversimplification to assess the merits of the original historical sources. A school trip to the Eternal City is a magnificent way for students to begin to question and measure the words of the ancient historians who have woven out narrative of the empire and its downfall. Not only that, a visit will allow students to stand in the Coliseum and see first hand artefacts from soldiers, artisans, labourers and slaves, and thus develop an image of Rome based on primary sources not just historians words, which often mixed imagination and fact with aplomb.

Sense the loss in Krakow

Some past lessons are hard to learn but impossible to forget. The trauma undergone by the Jewish population in Poland during the advent of Nazi occupation is hard to comprehend, especially for a student on a school trip. Yet a visit to Krakow and the remains of surrounding concentration camps is vital to bring this dark past into the present for students, which in turn is essential in helping them understand the extent of loss and the tragedy of Nazi ideology. This will make their analysis of the causes and consequences of World War Two no longer a dry issue of academia, but a potent study of the human condition.